How to Bring Up Your Children Properly

Childhood years are the best time to learn. Somehow, a person’s comprehension is at its peak during childhood. Parents should take advantage of these learning years to ingrain the values of life in their children.

If you’re a parent, teach them positive habits so they will know and see the beauty that life has to offer. Make them enthusiastic about life. Instill into their hearts and minds all the wonders and magnificence of being alive by living life to its fullest in a positive way. 

There is a striking difference between children who learn by their own findings and those who learn with proper guidance. The first thing children learn is that they stay with them and adjust to adulthood.

Let us suppose you let your children learn through self-discovery. To a certain extent, self-discovery is good since it develops full independence and self-reliance. However, the learning process might be slow. It is like a trial-and-error experience for children. They have to segregate the good from the bad, the right from the wrong, what they like and what they don’t. 

It is most likely that what they will like are the ones that come easy to them or the ones they enjoy the most. And the ones they enjoy the most might not be the best ones. Without proper guidance, what they like and enjoy the most might hurt them although they are not aware of it. Perhaps later, if they find out they picked the wrong choices, it may be too late. 

With self-discovery through proper guidance, you will leave room for them to develop independence and self-reliance. Show them what is right and what is wrong. Explain to them why. If possible, cite instances or examples based on true-to-life events to make them more convincing and realistic. The more realistic they are, the more easily the children are convinced. 

Likewise, try teaching them in a friendly and humorous atmosphere. Children are more attentive and eager to learn when all (both teachers and students) are in an easy mood. You will know and feel their eagerness to learn through the sparkle in their eyes and they answer your questions. What they learn from you is acceptable to them and will stay with them. That is why, as a parent, you must show enthusiasm in life to your children. 

There’s a third method of making children learn. That is through proper guidance leaving negligible room for self-discovery. But there are drawbacks. You take away from them the benefits of self-reliance and independence. The guidance you devote to them may be good and well-intended, but they must not rely on you on almost everything they do. They become decision-dependent on you. There are instances wherein this guidance might be worse than giving no guidance at all. 

Although they are financially responsible for guiding and supporting their children for a better life, their children prefer to face adversity during adolescence.

Then their children will appreciate what they are experiencing. This may apply to stubborn and rebellious young people, but not to the disciplined ones. Why should their sons and daughters repeat the same difficulties? There is no reason for that. This is like washing innocents. Instead of repeating the experience, they should learn from it. Life is too short to repeat unpleasant experiences.

One of the best ways to broaden your children’s knowledge about life is by traveling. The world - it's varied people, places, and cultures - has a lot of information to offer. It is perhaps as important as the conventional classroom. If you are financially able, traveling is one of the best educational experiences you can give your children. Look for exhibits or world fairs and take your children there. Books are the next best things. It’s traveling by reading. 

Fill your children with thoughts of self-importance, confidence, and a positive attitude so that there will be no room for negative thinking. Fill their world with laughter, love, and understanding. You‘ll never go wrong.